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You Hurt My Feelings (2023)

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Plot Summary: The film revolves around Beth, a novelist, whose marriage takes an unexpected turn when she overhears her husband, Don, sharing his candid, less-than-enthusiastic opinion about her latest book. This revelation puts their relationship under strain, offering a humorous and poignant look at honesty, love, and creative ambition.

Direction and Story: Nicole Holofcener

Starring:
Julia Louis-Dreyfus as Beth
Tobias Menzies as Don
Michaela Watkins as Sarah
Arian Moayed as Mark
Jeannie Berlin as Georgia

 Freddy's Movie Review
***SPOILER ALERT***

A Long-Awaited Movie Night

Hello, dear reader! After months away from the world of cinema (my last venture was a Kazakhstan-themed director week), the wife and I finally sat down to watch a movie together last Friday—and stayed awake through it! We chose You Hurt My Feelings (2023), a film about two couples in their late forties, (maybe early fifties?) navigating career frustrations and relationship hurdles. Though we're not quite there yet, this movie felt like a preview of what’s to come. Julia Louis-Dreyfus is Beth, a writer struggling with the truth that her husband secretly hates her latest book, despite his kind words of encouragement. This small betrayal sets the stage for an exploration of the theme of honesty, relationships, and the little lies we tell to protect the people we love.


A Sitcom in Disguise

The movie had a strong sitcom vibe, which might not appeal to everyone, but it worked for the kind of humor and relatability it aimed for. This was my first time seeing Julia Louis-Dreyfus in a movie, and wow, what a journey from Seinfeld! At 62, she looks amazing—aging gracefully and far from the plastic-surgery disasters you see so often. Her husband in the film, played by Tobias Menzies (also my first time seeing him), is a psychiatrist questioning his abilities after a long-time patient couple demands more than $30,000 back for years of therapy they claim didn’t help (watch this scene below). Meanwhile, Beth’s sister Sarah (Michaela Watkins) is tired of her unfulfilling interior design work, and her husband, a failed actor, begins to wonder if he ever truly loved the craft. While watching, I couldn’t help but think about all the bad professionals I’ve encountered in my life. The movie somehow eased my irritation with those memories by reminding me that we’re all flawed—and that’s okay.


Lessons in Honesty (and a Few Chuckles)

Though You Hurt My Feelings didn’t strike me as very “cinematic,” its story felt real and relevant. The humor kept me chuckling, even if some scenes—like the ones with Beth’s mother, played by Jeannie Berlin—felt awkward and stuck. And yes, the assault scene was silly, pure sitcom-style. But by the end, the film left me with something to think about: the importance of honesty with those closest to us. It might hurt their feelings, but it can also set them free. The ending, with its open interpretation and nice music, was a solid conclusion. Did the couple’s son write a great book? Who knows—and does it even matter? Life is full of highs and lows, and whether we succeed or fail, it’s important to keep it real with those we love. I’d recommend this movie to millennials like me as a glimpse of the challenges the next decades might bring.


🎥 Cinematography (5/10):

It’s like watching a sitcom with its humor and pretty bland NY sets. Nothing fancy here, just functional, giving the right space for dialogue.

📖 Story (8/10):

The story is solid. It dives into honesty in relationships and the insecurities we all face in our work and personal lives. It’s relatable for me.

🎬 Direction (7/10):

The director kept the focus where it mattered—on the characters and their dynamics. But some scenes felt, I don’t know, stuck? Like they didn’t flow as naturally as they should.

👥 Characters (7/10):

The characters are what really sold me. Their flaws and struggles felt real, and I couldn’t help but connect with that.

💥 Visual Effects (N/A):

Not applicable. 5 points to balance it out.

🎭 Acting (6/10):

Julia Louis-Dreyfus did her thing, and yeah, she’s still got it. Tobias Menzies? My first time watching him, and he was fine but didn’t blow me away. And like I said, Beth’s mom—yikes, those scenes just felt weird.

💬 Dialogue (8/10):

The jokes hit, and I got some good laughs out of it.

🌍 Setting/Atmosphere (5/10):

Functional, whatever.

🎵 Music (6/10):

I loved the ending music. It tied things up nicely, even if the story didn’t give you a clear resolution.

😄 Entertainment Value (7/10):

Despite the flaws, I’d still recommend it. It’s funny, it’s honest, and if you’re a millennial like me, it gives you a sneak peek at the kind of challenges you might face in your late 40s or early 50s—or whatever age that is where everything just feels... harder.
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